Growing in Grace and Hope

"YOUR INTEGRITY AND YOUR INFLUENCE" - 1 Peter 2:11-25

 

1 Peter 2:11-25 "11 Dear friends, I warn you as temporary residents and foreigners to keep away from worldly desires that wage war against your very souls. 12 Be careful to live properly among your unbelieving neighbors. Then even if they accuse you of doing wrong, they will see your honorable behavior, and they will give honor to God when he judges the world. 13 For the Lord's sake, respect all human authority,whether the king as head of state, 14 or the officials he has appointed. For the king has sent them to punish those who do wrong and to honor those who do right.  15 It is God's will that your honorable lives should silence those ignorant people who make foolish accusations against you. 16 For you are free, yet you are God's slaves, so don't use your freedom as an excuse to do evil. 17 Respect everyone, and love your Christian brothers and sisters. Fear God, and respect the king. 18 You who are slaves must accept the authority of your masters with all respect. Do what they tell you - not only if they are kind and reasonable, but even if they are cruel. 19 For God is pleased with you when you do what you know is right and patiently endure unfair treatment. 20 Of course, you get no credit for being patient if you are beaten for doing wrong. But if you suffer for doing good and endure it patiently, God is pleased with you.  21 For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps. 22 He never sinned, nor ever deceived anyone. 23 He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly. 24 He personally carried our sins in his body on the cross so that we can be dead to sin and live for what is right. By his wounds you are healed. 25 Once you were like sheep who wandered away. But now you have turned to your Shepherd, the Guardian of your souls."

 

Peter says that people are watching your every move to see what kind of person you are. Notice 2 Peter 2:12 - "Be careful to live properly among your unbelieving neighbors. Then even if they accuse you of doing wrong, they will see your honorable behavior, and they will give honor to God when he judges the world." The word "see" there in Greek means not a passing glance but a concentrated effort. People are making mental notes on you. People are watching you whether you like it or not, particularly if you claim to be a believer.

 

What do they watch? They watch to see if what you say you believe matches what you do. They watch to see if you have integrity. Peter says that a hallmark of the Christian life is integrity. In this passage He says that there are three things that test your integrity and people are going to watch how you respond to these things: Temptation, Authority, Suffering How you respond to these three things will determine whether you have influence or not, whether you have integrity or not.

 

HOW TO LIVE WITH INTEGRITY

 

In this passage he's talked about what God's done for us. Last week we looked at what God's said about us. Today he says, Here is how you should live in light of all those things and he says, to live with integrity you need to do three things:

 

1.  Stay away from temptation.

 

Vs. 11 – "Dear friends, I warn you as "temporary residents and foreigners" to keep away from worldly desires that wage war against your very souls."

 

If something tempts you, get away from it. A person of integrity, if they're watching something on TV or a movie and they know it is something that tempts them, they don't say, "Nobody knows I'm watching this." A person of integrity will change the channel. A person of integrity will lock the refrigerator or whatever it is that tempts you. If you don't want to get burned, stay away from the fire.

 

Stay away from temptation. Why? He says, "I warn you as temporary residents and foreigners." The Greek words here literally mean "people who don't have citizenship - who have citizenship elsewhere and those who are just making a brief stay." They may have a green card or temporary visa or they are people just passing through. What he's saying is this - Your real home, if you're a believer, isn't here on earth. It's in heaven. You're just passing through. You'll be here maybe 80 years so don't get hung up, don't get attached, and don't get too cozy with this world because you're not going to stay here very long.

 

It's easy to get caught up in our culture. It's easy to make things in this world your goal and aim. It's easy to get comfortable around sin too. If you live around sin long enough, pretty soon you start becoming comfortable with it. When you hear somebody cuss and take the Lord's name in vain, pretty soon you start saying, "That doesn't bother me." It ought to bother you, when Jesus' name is taken in vain. Or if you watch enough sex on television and the movies and say "It just doesn't bother me." Peter says, Then you are being seduced. You're in big trouble. You're slowly caving in. So he says, just stay away from temptation. People with integrity swim upstream. "Friends, this world is not your home Don't make yourself cozy in it. Don't indulge your ego at the expense of your soul "

 

V. 16 – "For you are free, yet you are God's slaves, so don't use your freedom as an excuse to do evil." As a Christian you're free. Your salvation is not a result of your good behavior. You are saved by God's good grace - an undeserved gift. The fact is you're free from the law but don't use that as an excuse to sin.

 

I can get drunk all I want. I can cheat on my taxes all I want. I can take all the drugs I want to take. I can mess around with all the women I want to mess around with, But Jesus changed my want to. I don't want to do those things when I think of what God did for me.

 

People wonder, can you cheat on your taxes and still be a Christian? Can you leave your spouse and still be a Christian? Can you have an affair and still be a Christian? Can you do this or that and still be a Christian? Well, God's grace says he loves you and forgives you even if you have done these and others sins, but integrity demands that you don't. It's not a matter of salvation. It's a matter of integrity. Integrity says, "My life backs up what I say." And if you claim to be a Christian, don't drag the name of Christ through the gutter.  He says, You're free, you don't relate to God through good works, but God called you out of sin by His grace so you would stay out of it.

 

People often ask, "What's God's will for my life? How can I know God's will." This verse tells you what God's will is. V. 15 – "It is God's will that your honorable lives should silence those ignorant people who make foolish accusations against you." God's will for your life is that you live with integrity, that your life matches what you say you believe. It is God's will that you be an advertisement of Jesus Christ, at work, at play, at school, at home, and that you live above reproach. You are the only Bible some will ever read. We need show and tell Christians.

 

I think you will agree with me that the world, especially the media, is looking for things to find fault with Christians, They almost never have any positive to say.  They seem to focus these goof-ball evangelists on television. Obviously you don't want to defend that. 

 

You cannot control the lies that people say about you. But you can control the truth. You do have control over that. I want to live my life and I want you to live your life in such a way that people have to make up stuff about you in order to accuse you. That's what it means to stay away from temptation, that they have to make up stuff, just to accuse you.

 

2. Yield to authority for the Lord's sake.

 

The second way your integrity is tested is how you respond to authority - people in government, people in law enforcement, parents, your boss, spiritual authorities like elders, any authority figures in your life. How you handle that reveals your maturity. Vs. 13-14 – "For the Lord's sake, respect all human authority,whether the king as head of state,  or the officials he has appointed For the king has sent them to punish those who do wrong and to honor those who do right." So respect the government and those who carry out or enforce the laws.  It is a mark of a Christian to submit to authority.  Notice the word "submit." He says that you're to yield. It's a mark of a believer of how you yield to authority.

 

What does that mean? When you get to a yield sign while you're driving what do you do? (or what should you do?) Yield means you let the other guy have his way first. That is a mark of a true, mature believer. You don't have to have your way all the time. You're able to yield, you're able to give in, able to not be selfish, to submit. Submission, yielding, is not a sign of weakness. Yielding is a sign of self control. It means I don't have to have my way all the time. It says "I feel good enough about myself, I don't have to have my way all the time." Insecure people have to have their way all the time. An insecure person says, "I have my rights!" Whenever anybody says that, they're saying "I'm scared to death, inside" Mature people are secure people and they don't always have to have their way, they're able to let things slide, let things go. They don't always demand that it be their way.

 

(This attitude is linked to the idea of being aliens and strangers in this world.)

 

Peter says, this is the way you ought to be People are going to watch you to see how you as a believer respond to authority -- your boss, the government, law enforcement, police officer, teacher, parents, whatever.

 

Notice is says, authority figures are sent by God.  God allows government in order to establish order, to set up laws.  Even bad government, even the worst government is preferable to chaos, to anarchy. We are to respect them. Why? It says, "For the Lord's sake." Remember that phrase. You don't respect them because they deserve it. You respect them because the Lord has allowed them to serve you in that way. He's saying again, "If you call yourself a Christian, you represent Christ."

Vs. 17 - "Respect everyone, and love your Christian brothers and sisters. Fear God, and respect the king."

1) Show respect for everybody. Prejudice is unacceptable in the life of a believer. There's absolutely no place for racism. It's inexcusable for a believer. The ground is level at the foot of the cross and He loves every person - size, shape, color, background, whatever.

2) Love Christians everywhere. You may not like everybody in this church but you've got to love them. Why? Because He says we are to love each other. We're brothers and sisters in Christ in God's family.

 

3) Fear God and honor the government. Jesus said, "Render unto Caesar the things that are Caesar's." I have a hard time with that verse when I think about who Peter was writing it to. Remember, when Peter was writing this book the Christians were the outcasts of society. They wouldn't be able to meet freely like this. The last thing they thought about was having their own building. They were just elated when they could meet without being arrested They were being hounded and hunted and persecuted and thrown to the lions or kicked out of town. Peter says, "honor the government." Nero was the emperor of Rome at this time. Nero was an insane emperor. He was slaughtering millions of his own people. He burnt his own city down so he could rebuild it. He was a classic dysfunctional person with power.

 

"Honor the government." How? You honor the position not the personality. And you pray for the position and the personality. It's like honoring your parents. The Bible says "Honor your parents." What if my parents were bad to me? A woman says, "How can I honor my dad. He molested me as a child?" or "How can I honor my parents, they were both alcoholics and they abused me?" You honor the position, not everything that they did. They may have been terrible in parenting but at least God used them to bring you into the world. You wouldn't be here if it weren't for them. So you honor the position. Honor authority.

 

What if the government tells me to disobey God? Obviously your first allegiance is to God. He's not talking bout mindless compliance here. Submission sometimes means being willing to suffer the penalty for doing the right thing. If there's a law that says "Do this" and you know it's wrong, God says it's wrong. Submission means at that point being willing to suffer for doing the right thing. There is a place to disobey government – just not for selfish reasons but for godly reasons.

 

Do you have an employer? If you do, that employer is in a place of authority over you. The Bible says that you are to yield and you're to respect your employer. "But you don't know my boss!" Doesn't matter. V. 18-19 – "You who are slaves must accept the authority of your masters with all respect. Do what they tell you - not only if they are kind and reasonable, but even if they are cruel. 19 For God is pleased with you when you do what you know is right and patiently endure unfair treatment." What counts is that you put up with it for God's sake when you're treated badly for no good reason - when you are passed over for a raise or promotion that you deserved - when you are given extra work and not rewarded for it. What's your attitude at work say about you? Does it show your integrity? Do you quietly and gently just accept things that happen or do you complain like everybody else?

 

Your integrity will be tested. Of that you can be absolutely sure of in this world. Your integrity will be tested by how you respond to temptation. Your integrity will be tested by how you respond to authority. And it will be tested by how we respond to unjust suffering.

 

3. Seek God in Suffering.

 

The greatest test of all will be how you respond to suffering.  Nothing reveals character quicker than problems and pain. That's one of the reasons why God allows it. When you go through suffering it really reveals what you're like, what God is making of you, what you are allowing God to make of you. Christians are like tea bags; you don't know what they're like inside until you put them in hot water.

 

As long as you live on this earth, you will experience suffering. You will have problems. You will have pain. Fortunately, God gave us a model of how to handle that suffering with integrity.

 

V. 21 – "For God called you to do good, even if it means suffering, just as Christ suffered for you. He is your example, and you must follow in his steps." Jesus is our model of how to handle unjust treatment with integrity.

 

How did Jesus handle it? "(He) committed no sin, nor was any deceit found in His mouth; and while being reviled, He did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously." He didn't fight back. Isn't that the opposite of our culture? Yes, it is. We live in a fight-back generation. We want to get even. The moment we think our rights are being violated we jump to defend ourselves. Instead it says, Jesus Christ let God the Father defend Him. We love to jump at giving defense. We fight back, we retaliate, we get even or make the threat of getting even. We're quick to sue. We may not know any Bible verses but we know our lawyers phone number.

 

There was a doctor and a lawyer at a party together. While they were talking a lady came up and asked the doctor for a diagnosis. She explained her problem and he explained what to do about it and she walked away. The doctor turned to the attorney and said, "I know this is a party but do you think it would be appropriate for me to send her a bill?" The attorney said, "Of course it is." So he sent her a bill. The next day he got a bill from the attorney.

 

What was Jesus' secret of defending Himself? "He suffered in silence, content to let God set things right." Jesus didn't defend Himself, He let God the Father defend Him. He said, I'm just passing through, this isn't My permanent home. My Father will eventually settle the score. God says, "Vengence is Mine, I will repay." Who can do a better job at getting even, you or God? Let God defend you.

 

It says in Vs. 23 – "He did not retaliate when he was insulted, nor threaten revenge when he suffered. He left his case in the hands of God, who always judges fairly."  It's an act of integrity. Instead of defending yourself you just say, "I'm going to let God handle this. I'm going to let Him settle the score."

 

We get upset over the smallest inconveniences. If your food gets delayed or isn't brought out just as you requested, you get hot under the collar. If someone cuts you off on the road or you're short changed at a store, you're quick to let everybody know how irritated you are. When was the last time you took an injustice and just kept your mouth shut and accepted it with grace? God says that shows integrity. I need to work on that, and I think most of us do.

 

I know that there are unhealthy people that can take this verse to the extreme. "I'll just be a doormat in life."  Peter isn't talking about mindless compliance.  The fact is that for most of us that's not our problem.  We go to the other extreme and we never let God have a chance to defend us because we're too quick to defend ourselves.  He says, "Be like Jesus in this."

 

For 20 years Dr. Helen Rosenver was a medical missionary to the Congo. In 1964 when the Simba rebellion occurred she was attacked and captured by rebel forces. She was beaten repeatedly and she was raped repeatedly. A few years later she had this to say in an interview about that experience, "The rebels had decided to execute several of us. Only too quickly the moment came when we were actually standing in front of the firing line. If someone had asked me earlier if I could be a martyr I would have answered ‘No, I'm not built that way.' But as we were facing those guns, certain to be killed at any second, we were actually singing the praises of God. We suddenly experienced God's presence and joyfully anticipated our reunion with Him in heaven. God simply swept our fears away. Miraculously, at the last moment, the rebels decided not to execute us. In fact, I can remember one other late night experience, when this overwhelming consciousness of God's presence came to me that He was there and He was in charge and that He knew what was happening. It was almost as if He said to me, ‘They're not beating you, or raping you. These are not your sufferings. These are My sufferings. All I'm asking is the loan of your body.'" Later on she wrote, "In 1981 1 had breast cancer. I was 36 years old. My mother had died 32 years earlier at the age of 36 with cancer. In 1983 1 had a second mastectomy and learned that my husband was having a mid-life crisis affair. In 1986 our bright, beautiful 18 year old son took his life. No warning, no sign that he'd been unhappy. My husband and I were at home when he quietly hung himself in the basement. In 1988 after 21 years of what I thought was a good marriage, my husband moved in with his Friday night rendezvous. Because of all the hell we'd been through I was certain nothing could break us apart. When he left me the pain was gut wrenching. But I got through it. How have I overcome all this grief in my life? It was due to the help I received and loving support of my church family, my family and friends. But above all it was my belief in the presence of God in my life."

 

The best test of your faith is how you react when you're mistreated. I'm not talking about those stupid things we bring on ourselves; we cause a lot of our own problems. I'm talking about when you're mistreated unjustly. The Bible says that people are watching you to see how you respond to temptation, how you respond to authority, and how you respond to suffering. Jesus says it like this: "You are the salt of the earth...you are the light of the world.. .Let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father who is in heaven." He says, be a light.

 

What would the people you work with say about your life? If I were to go and talk to the people you work with on a daily basis and ask "Is this person a real genuine Christian or not?" What would they say? What would your reputation be? What's going to be on your obituary when you die?

 

Do you know the story of Alfred Nobel (Nobel Peace Prize)? Alfred Nobel woke up one morning and read his own obituary in the newspaper. They had made a mistake, a journalistic error. His brother had died and they thought it was him and put in an obituary for him. The obituary for Alfred Nobel said this, "Alfred Nobel was the inventor of dynamite. He was a manufacturer of weapons. He was a merchant of death." He said it so shocked him of how people saw him. He said he, at that point, committed the rest of his life to working toward world peace and donated his vast wealth to establish the Nobel Peace Prizes for people who themselves worked for peace.

 

The timeless story - A Christmas Carol - tells about a similar situation. Ebenezer Scrooge is visited by three spirits warning Him of his future if he continues his evil ways. One Spirit takes him into his future - his funeral. There Ebenezer is shaken when he sees how other people really thought of him. If you had the same chance, what would you see at your own funeral?

 

People are watching you. But not only are people watching you, God is watching you. Which of these three areas do you have the most trouble with? Which of these three areas do you have the most problems with integrity? Is it in the area of temptation? That when nobody is looking you let things slide and you get away with things that you wouldn't do if everyone was watching? God's watching, looking at your integrity. Do you do what you say you believe? How about authority? Do you want to be like the devil? Then be rebellious, That's how Satan got kicked out of heaven. You're most like the devil when you're rebelling, you're most like Jesus Christ when you're yielding. In any situation. In a marriage - you take 2 insecure people, put them in a marriage together, they're both going to demand their rights and have problem after problem. Marriage should be a submission contest, a yielding contest. Who can do the most for the other person? Do you have a problem with suffering? Do you gripe and complain and secretly try to get even with people? Or do you by grace say, "God I'm going to let you handle this."

 

Live with integrity. But know this, a life of integrity begins when you yield your life to Jesus at the cross. Integrity isn't achieved when you trust in your own ability. It begins when you surrender to God - accepting God's gracious gift of forgiveness and eternal life through the death and resurrection of Jesus.